i am about to talk about thom yorke more than i ever have on here cuz i am usually reluctant to. enjoy.
so, basically, do i… think thom is a douche? uh, i dunno. i mean i’m not his ffucking spokesperson and in the end i ultimately know NOTHING about him, but what i’ve gathered from exposing myself to massive quantities of radiohead is that perhaps thom can be a little pretentious sometimes (and let’s face it, a lot of us are), but he has only as much arrogance as he needs to be the front man and (of The) principle songwriter(s) in a band like the band that he’s actually in and has been in, more or less all the time, for just over 25 years. it’s just like my career or it’s just like your career, and it’s just like either of our friends’ passionate long time hobbies. thom is only a douche to people like your friend because they do not judge him like they would anyone else in their lives, assuming they’re mature enough to be kind to the people they interact with on a daily basis. either way, they’re not to be taken seriously.
maybe it bothers some that thom isn’t so good at that whole… celebrity… thing, or maybe it doesn’t feel right that he doesn’t take it seriously, but i take that to be a testament to his merit as a musician and a human being before anything else. thom is ultimately pretty likeable and deserves respect. most people deserve that much. he, especially, has accomplished quite a lot in his life both personally and in his career, and who are we to judge anything more than that? he’s just like you, or he’s just like me, or he’s just like your ‘friend’. art is subjective/personal, yeah, and thom’s art is subjective/personal to him and therefore he has his own subjective/personal opinions on it. his opinions just come from a different place than ours. it’s probably safe to say he has a different experience with his own fucking music. i mean, i dunno. makes sense, right?
we just happened to be exposed to the opinions of the person who makes the thing we have opinions on. i don’t really believe we’re entitled to our opinions on his personal flaws or his personal life, or at least, i don’t believe there is a point to maintaining negative feelings toward someone who hasn’t done anything cruel or evil or heinous (such as thom), especially when the source of those negative opinions is essentially our own hypocrisy. have you ever heard people bitch about others singing out of tune/time during concerts when no one else is? have you heard people bitch even about huge crowds singing things? clapping along to things? dancing, for some reason? screaming during quiet songs? requesting things incessantly? shouting out tired boring old jokes? (Freebird!) are people allowed not to like those things? are they allowed not to like those things because of their personal experiences with or connections to or interpretations of them? (like, thom does with his song, that he wrote, that he recorded, that he performs, that he lives off of, etc…)
thom is as entitled to his opinions on and perceptions of his music or his experiences as anyone else, and someone is just as entitled to disagree with him on his music. i don’t think he would necessarily object to that, or even care, really, because he at least deserves some respect for what he’s done with himself and within himself in his life. he has more strength than most, i think, because he needs it. the intensity i imagine he can create within himself from his experiences and perceptions probably requires so much acting power and resilience to cope with and to control. most people don’t do that. i see him as being remarkably indestructible.
but, then, maybe thom isn’t even of the same opinion anymore. i know which quote your friend is specifically citing, and i can understand where he is coming from. i’m a radiohead fan myself, and though i can’t say i agree with or love everything thom yorke says/thinks/wears/eats/buys/does, i don’t hold it against him, because i have no right to. like, every time i read that quote, i kind of laugh, “oh, thom, i get it, but…” where now thom, on the other hand, might have a different reaction to mine; a reaction which could maybe even negate himself, but i mean… i don’t know. i haven’t asked. he just might, because human beings will do that. we evolve over time, or we should anyway, and as long as we ultimately make an effort to do it at all and try to make ourselves the most we can possibly, realistically be, we can get away with our mistakes in the end. because ultimately you realise your past never makes you who you are. radiohead’s musical career is characterised by evolution, and their music itself is often inspired by evolutions within our society OR evolutions within the self, and as a radiohead fan, your friend should get that. i understand why smiths fans can love the music and hate the frontman, but radiohead fans cannot logically do that. so check yerself.
but what would i know. ask thom, i’m sure he’d be willing to explain why he’s such a douche, because most of us would be, right?